Teachers often tell me they struggle to get students to open up during check-ins, Quick Connects, or discussions. My first question back is usually: Are you sharing with them?
Students are far more likely to engage when they see that you’re willing to do the same. Being intentional about sharing small pieces of your life, like your experiences, values, or even how you’re feeling that day, helps set the tone. When students see you being real, they feel safer doing the same.
I’ve seen it happen firsthand. In a new group, I once shared a personal story about a challenge I overcame. That one moment of vulnerability shifted the entire atmosphere. Students who had been hesitant suddenly felt more comfortable, and the depth of their responses changed.
That said, not every student will open up right away, and that’s okay. Some need more time to develop trust. You’ll always have a few students who listen but don’t share much at first. The key is to let them engage at their own pace without pressure.
Ways to Build Trust Over Time:
- Model the type of sharing you hope to see. Be open about your thoughts, but keep it authentic and appropriate for your students.
- Respect different comfort levels. Not every student will feel ready to share right away, so give them time.
- Create a predictable routine. When students know what to expect, they feel safer participating.
- Acknowledge participation without forcing it. A simple “Thanks for sharing” goes a long way.
Trust isn’t built in a single conversation. It’s developed through consistency, respect, and the example you set. Keep showing up, and students will, too.
-John Whalen, Co-founder of Edtomorrow